What I want and what you want or most often not the same thing. Why would that be what you ask? You were born in a different place at a different time and raised by different people and parents and you would think you would want the same thing when what you have done your whole life was different than what I have done.
Now you have a child that you brought into this world rather you were the actual parents or not is not the issue the point being that child came into the world at a different time than you did and right of the get go the world to them is a different time than you, their friends will be different the home, the school, and the hole environment will be different for that child. Everything changes nothing stays the same.
Now I ask you would you buy a drink for a drunk? Of course, not you say. Would you buy a fix for a person addicted to narcotics? No, you say youβre the reason for your answer is obvious. But yet you want a child to want what you want. I am not suggesting your child is either a drunk or an doper what I am trying to convey is they are addicted to what they have been taught and because of the environment and changes from what you are they are different individuals than you are regardless if they were born and raised in your house. They are still an individual with a separate brain and ambition than you.
What we are speaking about here is that the difference between two individuals is not ever going to be the same. You can love them or not it will not change the fact they are an individual and will all ways be that way. What you want and what I want are not the same and by the same thinking you must understand that your very own child or loved one is different and will have different wants in life.
Now the caution comes is what you want what they want? Better question IS what you want for them better for them than what they want for themselves? How sure are you of that answer? Lets jump to education here. You want that child to have an education you say. Ok but does the child want that education the same way you want to give them that education. Education comes in a broad form.Β You can hang a certification on the wall saying you did this or that but it is worthless if one did not earn it.
Say I have a certification saying I won the driver of the year and have never driven a car before. When asks by another about driving and you cannot answer the question what good was the certification certificate on the wall. What we have here is you can want or give to another but you cannot make them be what you want them to be. You cannot make the cake without blending the flour and eggs together regardless of how much you love the cake. You cannot make the child a pilot of airplanes regardless of how much you love that child or how much you love to fly. You can help them learn to fly if they want to learn but you cannot push a rope and you cannot make someone else be what they do not want to be. Accept that and know that when you offer an education for that child if they do not want to help earn that education you are pushing a rope.
You to go to the doctors office and see on the wall showing they had certificates of education. But the doctor is not seeing patience they are in the back playing video games.Β Makes you wonder if someone wanted them to be a doctor worse than they did.
You can buy them an education but you cannot make them smart. You certainly cannot make them successful they have to want it themselves.
The certification on the wall has to be earned not given. The presents gave should be for help not force. Perhaps I have chased this as far as I can to get you to understand the best you can do is to teach them where to get that education where to lean for guidance. If you can teach them to go to the best teacher the best instructor the best of the best is where your attention should be. Teach them to love God and you can know in your heart of hearts that you have set the table for the greatest meal they will ever have.
No one likes to be told but we all want to learn. Perhaps this day is the perfect time in all creation to stand back and look to where the true meaning of what it is all about. Perhaps today is the perfect time for those really important to those you love. Do not try to be God to another teach them to want that which is really important to their development. No greater gift can be gave than wisdom of the well of love. Nothing I as a writer can give or say that has more truth than truth itself.
We all start from a different place at a different time with different teachers but when the race is over we will all end up at the same finish line. If you can teach them to follow the light you can rest knowing you have gave them the best possible gift in all creation.
A Messenger,
Verl K.